Leading female therapist Dr. Pam Spurr makes an argument that I can’t disagree with: Women must learn to say yes in the bedroom.

According the Purr, the sexual revolution of the sixties and seventies and the resulting feminism movement has gone too far. She now far too often encounters women with bitter regrets over failed relationships that all have one thing in common: lack of sexual compromise. Purr explains that on a regular basis she meets women who’ve refused to show sexual interest in their relationships for periods of time only to be cheated on and/or divorced.

In relationships where men feel sexually neglected by their partner they are highly likely to look elsewhere to satisfy their sexual desires. Purr says that in almost all of the cases the women have had no good reasons, such as medical issues or a traumatic event, to deny their men sex and that is understandable that men in such relationships go elsewhere for sex.

Of the hundreds of women she’s met, Purr says:

“They’ve lacked interest in sex for a variety of reasons, and expected to set the ground rules with no negotiation. The consequences? Troubled or broken relationships.”

And finally the most important advice Purr has for women:

“You may think it’s a terrible comparison to make between chores and sex. But I believe that sex should be seen as a duty because it is one of the most fundamental ways in which you can make your partner feel better. You may not want to have sex, just as you may not want to visit his parents, but you must tend to every aspect of your relationship if you wish it to survive.”

Thanks to Daily Mail for this piece